Do you want to be with that person? A question I ask myself when I am more than friends with a guy. Do I see some good qualities in this guy. When I was younger I had a check list, as I got older I have come to reality. Don’t get things wrong I still have things that I look for in a guy it is just that this time around it has more to do with personality and how the person makes me feel then it does with appearance. Although appearance plays a role, it is not a major role. I have talked to multiple guys who were interested in me and I have dated a few of them. And looking back I don’t regret any of it. I believe that each and everyone of them was one that I learned from. Moving forward I now know more than I did in the past. I believe now I have the courage to not be afraid of losing the person in the process of finding love. I don’t know about most people but for me I use to sacrifice and put aside what I wanted in a relationship if it meant that I would lose the person. I would invest my time in doing what the other person wants and also making sure that they are happy even though that didn’t make me happy. I have come to realize a relationship is about prioritizing the person, loving, caring, sacrificing, understanding, compromising and the list can go on and on, but it would never work if only one person in the relationship is the one doing it all.
Love
There is something that is called love. It makes you happy at times and makes you sad other times. You would think from the way I am talking that I am maybe in my 40’s or passed that. You might also think I have had lots of experience with so many different men . The truth is that I am just a women that has experienced being loved and that has also loved. In both situation I was able to see the ups and downs. when you are in a relationship you feel the butterflies in your stomach, maybe you can’t sleep thinking about the person and you can’t wait to get a text or a phone call from the person. The little things the person does puts a smile on your face. sometimes it seems like you can’t live without this person. You are head over heels for this person. This is normal. I believe this is what most people feel on the first few months of being in a relationship. I am certain that it is not going to go like that for the rest of their life. that is why people take time to get to know each other and see if what they felt for that person is true and also make sure if the person is the one that they want to spend the rest of their life with. when the good morning and the good night text which use to be everyday turns into every other day, when phone calls starts to decrease you start to revaluate weather you still want to continue with this person. If you say yes and move forward you then either have a stronger bond or you will just keep the same level of bond you had in the past. But your bond should eventually become stronger the more you get to know the person. I am sure it is not going to be all lovedovey. At times it is going to be hard and make you feel like you want to end it with person and other times you feel like your the luckiest girl alive. whatever the case might be there is something that keeps you two together and that is love.
Quarantine
I am currently in Canada with my family . I have been in Canada for about a month now. I came to Canada due to the current pandemic(COVID-19). I live in America most specifically in Washington Dc. I moved to Dc on march of 2019 for work. Due to the pandemic schools, stores, malls and other places have been closed. Nonessential travel has been banded in America. Other counties have closed their borders. The news channels on TV and other streaming medias are mostly talking about the news and topics related to the current Pandemic that you forget about other things that are happening around the world. The current pandemic has people Quarantining. If people are not going out for work, for groceries and for other important stuff they are highly advised in same places to stay home and in other places they are forced to stay home by the government. There are a couple of percussion’s we can take to minimize our chance of getting the virus. we should wash our hands and when going out we should try and wear cloves and masks but most importantly if possible we should stay home. I know it sounds so boring when you think of staying home. For two or three days it might be okay or maximum of one week beyond that some people might lose their mind. we can either spent our time home complaining about when it is going to end or we can use the time to better our life. one might ask what it means to better your life? It can mean a lot of different things for different people. For me it means to have a better life today then the one you had yesterday. In order for that to happen you need to work towards it. I am using this time to make sure I focus on treating my hair and skin as well as my health. I gave my hair a big chop and at list ones a week I put hair mask and I use different oils to keep my hair hydrated. When it comes to my skin I put on face mask made from natural ingredients( honey and oatmeal) at list ones a week. I am also dedicating my time to apply for jobs. Other then that I spent time with my family.
Halima Aden
You don’t need to Condemn to the world’s definition towards anything . You can bend and change the definition to fit to your liking and needs. Inspired to write this Piece by Halima Aden :The first hijab wearing model. Many people might ask how Halima Aden could inspire a non-Muslim person like me. When we are talking about Halima Aden we are talking about more than just the look that she brings to the modeling industry. Although her looks are definitely one of a kind. To me the message about Halima Aden is deeper. The muslim community I believe can be inspired by her in Obvious ways. Black people can find inspiration in some level. We can say that African people might be inspired since she is from Somalia. Refugees can be inspired by her since she escaped from a refugee camp in Kenya. The message I got from seeing Halima Aden in the media is that even though somethings in life has been defined or portrayed in a certain way who says you can’t change and bend it to fit your needs. Also in everything there has to be a “first person” and don’t be afraid to be that first person.
Be yourself
I feel like there is no need to try to be someone else. God created you and there is no one out there like you. Think about it there is no reason for you to want to be someone else because you are unique. When you try to change to be someone else other then yourselves, it is for one: very tiring and exhausting trying to put an act everyday of your life. Try to be the best version of yourself because who can play you better than you. Moral of this is you are here on this earth so let people know who you are by being yourself.
Losing yourself in the process
Don’t lose yourself in the process. You might be asking what I mean by this statement. What I mean is that in whatever you do make sure you don’t lose yourself and become someone else far from who you truly are. Sometimes you get caught up in making others happy that you are welling to do anything to make sure they are happy. Other reasons why you might be losing yourself might be cause you might be going after the money and in this case you might not care about what it takes to get it. This might result in exhibiting actions that don’t align with your moral, values and believes. In this case you might find yourself doing things that are far from who you truly are. In anything that you do make sure you don’t forget the person your are by trying to fit or by doings things that you shouldn’t be doing .
Be yourself
I feel like there is no need to try to be someone else. God created you and there is no one out there like you. Think about it there is no reason for you to want to be someone else because you are unique. When you try to change to be someone else other then yourselves, it is for one: very tiring and exhausting trying to put an act everyday of your life. Try to be the best version of yourself because who can play you better than you. Moral of this is you are here on this earth so let people know who you are by being yourself.
A New Chapter
Everyone has their own story on how they got to where they are. For me my story is yet to be told. I believe that this year is a new chapter of my life. Usually when I see celebrities and successful people who have now made it I start to wonder what they had to go through to get to that position. I realize that most of them faced hard times as they were growing up. By the way, those are the people that are now doing great things. I am pretty sure while growing up those people who are now successful did not think that they would be able to make it this far. Having hope and dedication along side with consistency is what led them to where they are. When I hear some of their stories it hurts my heart as if I was the one that went through it , but at the same time it gives me courage to know that eventually the sun will come out even after the storm.
Everyone doesn’t think the same.
Things happen in life that we can’t explain why, but not knowing why you just have to find a solution. Let me tell you what I am talking about. You think everyone is like you so in a situation you think of what you would do and assume the person does that. Well in my case my first thought was wrong. Let me walk you through the story. Just last week I lost my phone. How it all happened is when I walked out of the car to go into Nordstrom and not realzing that I had my phone on my lap it dropped to the ground. I did not know that this happened so I did not get the chance to pick it up. When I noticed that I didn’t have my phone on me I tried calling it thinking maybe I had left it in the car but that was not the case. I thought maybe I should check outside incase I had dropped it. When I was looking for it this girl asked me if I was looking for a phone; I replied saying yes. She told me that she saw this guy taking it. I thought the person would somehow manage to give it to me. That did not happen. I had to buy a new phone. Not only did I lose my phone but also along with that I lost my debit card and drivers license. Anyways it could have been worse. I thought I would get my phone back from the person because I thought of what I would do in these type of situations, but I thought wrong.
Church
The other day at church the pastor was preaching about authority over power. He gave an example to explain what he meant by authority over power. The example he gave was if a truck was going down the street and if a police stands in front and orders the truck to stop the truck will stop. In this case the truck has power, it is stronger than the police, but the police has authority and there for has the ability to order the truck to stop. He was talking about this to show Christians have the authority towards the spiritual powers of this world.
Live everyday like it's your last 